Most of the time, modern dating sucks. You might get ghosted. You might get stuck in an almost relationship. You might get your hopes up and then end up heartbroken.
But once in a while, you will find someone who is worthy of your time. Someone who texts back in minutes. Someone who follows through on plans. Someone who says they miss you and means it.
This person won’t ignore you when you are apart. They will still call you when they are out with their friends — even better, they will invite you out with their friends. They will involve you in their world. They will make room for you, because you are more than a backup plan to them. You aren’t someone they consider temporary. You are someone they want around all the time.
This person will delete their dating apps after meeting you. They will stop searching for the next best thing because they believe in quality over quantity. They don’t want a million different people knocking down their door. They only want one person who they can trust, who will be there with them through it all, who will commit to them wholeheartedly.
Even though you are going to come across a million fuckboys, once in a while, you will stumble across someone who lives in the modern world but abides by old fashioned dating rules. Someone who holds open doors for you and walks you to the front stoop after your date. Someone who offers you their jacket and is excited to meet your parents.
This person will let you know if they are going to be late ahead of time so you aren’t stuck waiting. They are going to apologize and find a way to make it up to you on the rare occasions when they are unable to follow through on their promises. They will not disappoint you often. When they make you cry, they will stick around to dry the tears.
This person will show their appreciation for you every single day instead of waiting until special occasions — or even worse, neglecting you completely. They will say thank you when you give them a hand, because they know you didn’t have to do that. They will notice when you go out of your way for them, because they don’t expect you to put in so much effort. They don’t think you owe them anything, so they are grateful whenever you go above and beyond for them.
This person will make you realize how little you were settling for in the past. They will make you wonder why you ever waited three days for a text back or continued chasing after somebody who canceled plans at the last second. They will give you a new way of looking at what you deserve. They will inch your standards up higher.
Modern dating sucks — until you come across that one person who makes all of the bullshit you have endured worthwhile. Until you find the one worth settling down for.
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